I am Strong, but I am not Stupid,
I will not react each time I am attacked,
I will save my energy for bigger battles,
And take you down like a baby with a rattle.....
Yesterday I was provoked to retaliate to some really blatant hurtful words. Usually I would get into the mindless altercation destroying my peace of mind.
But this time before uttering anything, I paused for a while and weighed the pros and cons and being silent outweighed the pro rank and I am glad I made that choice coz not only a hurtful conversation was avoided but my non reaction to the hurtful comments infuriated the person and hopefully he got the message that my silence is my self defense and he stopped his shameful demeanor.
Was I hurt by his behaviour? Yes
Was I tempted to react? Oh hell! Yes…
But I stepped back for the first time in my life and gave tranquility more importance than getting even…
How many times have we been in situations where our silence for a few minutes could have avoided a lot of unnecessary conflict. No, I am not talking about saving a relationship here. I am only asserting to give serenity more importance than retribution.
Every fight does not need reaction. True strength lies in walking away from the nonsense with your head held high. Let go and look in the better direction
Choose your battles wisely. Fight only if it is important and staying silent will alter your life in any way….
How did I control the temptation to lash back? Well, as cliched as it may sound, I took a deep breath, chanted a mantra and distracted myself by chatting and laughing with a dear friend. I maybe still hurt thinking about it but the impact is not that strong anymore.